Magnetic, exhilarating, unforgettable, and beautiful are some of the words we use to describe sex. It is a situation where the emotions and limbs of partners tangle together, where their bodies sync and flow in a beautiful rhythm, with the primary goal of reaching mind-blowing orgasm.
It’s usually done calmly and gently, but sex can also be intense and hard. People have expressed a desire to be handled in bed such that their toes curl, their hand grips the bed, and they are left gasping for breath. This type of sex may be described as rough sex.
What Is Rough Sex?
Rough sex as a topic is broad and diverse, as it is usually different between couples. Still, the general idea is that it involves sexual activities considered aggressive and sometimes painful. Though closely linked with BDSM, rough sex is not usually sadomasochistic but might apply to some of its activities.
What Does Rough Sex Involve?
Though vast, choking, slapping, firm gripping, gagging, biting, spanking, and hair-pulling are some of the most common activities involved in intense and rough sex.
Some Statistics
A study involving university undergraduates in the United States indicated that 26.5% of women, 6.6% of men, and 22.3% of transgender and non-binary confirmed having been choked during their last sexual escapade. This can demonstrate that rough sex is popular amongst younger people.
Pornhub, a famous porn website, released a report indicating that women are 64% more interested in the rough sex category than men. The report also shows that the hardcore category, a close semblance to rough sex, is 74% more popular with women than men.
Why Do Humans Enjoy Rough Sex?
Thrusting is harder and more energetic during rough sex; elevating the feeling of arousal and making orgasms more intense. Rough sex tends to increase the general feel of sex, which is why many people tend to indulge in it.
A Little Bit Of Science
While some activities like choking and spanking may lead to pain during sex, not all the activities of rough sex lead to pain. The primary aim of sex is to feel pleasure; the introduction of pain might be a conflict of interest.
However, research has shown that pain is activated in the exact mechanism of the brain. Pleasure and pain are connected, so that during sex when one feels pain, it heightens the feeling of satisfaction and helps the body de-stress. This may help to promote the whole experience. Psychologically, people who engage in consensual rough sex have an increased sense of bonding with their partner.
Explore Safely
Though a large percentage of people enjoy rough sex, many others are okay with regular vanilla sex. Therefore, before engaging in any act, ask for your partner's consent; not asking for permission might scar your partner emotionally, and it might be criminal on your part. Engage in the use of safe words, so when a partner is in distress, you know when to stop.
Finally, make sure your partner is physically and emotionally taken care of. It is essential they feel loved after sex!