Sometimes the best thing to increase the intensity of a session with a client is when I don't give them what they want, when they want.  They pay me to deny them what they think they want. 
 

I began thinking and writing about monogamy when I found myself in love with two men at the same time.  Back in my twenties I wanted one man who would be a good provider, would adore me and help to take care of my children, and another one who was dangerous and difficult to love.
 

One thing we all know is that the brain is the largest sex organ in the body. For many men (and a good many women), the mere suggestion of a grope, a glimpse of cleavage or an overheard conversation in a cafe, can spark the erotic imagination.