The 69 position can cause controversy, whether you like it or not. It may be a wonderful experience for both parties to enjoy pleasure simultaneously when it works. The multitasking of attempting to provide and receive oral sex simultaneously is simply too much for partners who would prefer to do anything else. But you might just be able to make 69 into the fantastic mutual love fest you need with these 69 sexual positions, along with our professional advice and workarounds.
If you have never done it before, 69 is an oral sex position in which you and your partner curve in tandem, with each of your groins in the face of the other. Maintaining focus is one of the main “problems” that partners with 69 Sex Position face; it’s challenging to focus on your partner’s enjoyment while you’re enjoying yourself so much.
Don’t worry, you have choices. First, let rid of the notion that everyone must cum, which is a good rule of thumb for people of all sexes. Don’t always use 69 as a big concluding move; use it as part of sex. Mutual enjoyment is the focus of sixty-nine. Be careful to be curious and take your time. If multitasking becomes too much, rip up the 69 scripts by maintaining your position while taking shifts.
Another form of stimulation can be used instead of double oral stimulation. While the other partner stimulates the other with their hands or a toy, have one partner go down. Add a masturbation sleeve, butt plugs, vibrators, or anything else you like! You can use toys, alternate between oral and toys, or even transform it into a mutual hand-job scenario. Additionally, if your partner’s height makes 69 uncomfortable, try situating pillows or changing the position’s shape.You can design your own unique 69 experience with the aid of these positions.
The Pillow Lift
Employ a support pillow to get your mouths and groins in the proper positions if your body parts aren’t quite aligning. While the shorter partner straddles their face, the taller partner lies on the bottom with a pillow beneath their hips. The shorter partner may count on rocking backward and forward with a more significant portion of their body for motion, and the cushion will push the hips ahead, making it easier for them to reach.
The Mechanic
When one of you is significantly taller than the other, this is a fantastic choice. It allows either partner to take charge of the pressure, depth, or rhythm. The laying partner can regulate movement by gripping the standing partner’s hot ass, or the standing companion may rock into the laying partner. The throat is opened up when lying with the neck stretched in this manner for oral on a penis or dildo, which might facilitate deep throating and/or lessen gagging. Once more, a positioning pillow may be helpful in this situation.
Flexible 69
Sixty-nine does not have to be taken orally at the same time. As you like, mix hands, tongues, and toys. You can experiment with new feelings but still be blowing each other off. Longer-handled wand-style vibes can help with height disparity and offer some additional reach (there are attachments for people with penises!); rather than aiming for simultaneous release, time out your O’s or alternate between oral and additional stimulation. You can even experiment with edging!
The Lazy 69
Enjoy it as a relaxed, goal-free method for sharing delight with your partner if 69 isn’t enough to cause you to orgasm (typical, by the way). Rethinking 69 as a prelude to more focused stimulation with hands, toys, or penetration makes it much simpler to relax into and less performative (must…orgasm). Try facing each other while lying on your sides. It aids with height disparities and may be more comfortable. Additionally, don’t be scared to use flavored lube to add sweetness to the experience.