Time and time again, we’ve been told that men are simple, all they want from sex is plain sex but that happens to be a fallacy. Men are much more similar to women than has been let on. If you are wondering how to please a man, there are several ways to make his sexual experiences with you stand out in his mind.
Compliments can be paid him during and outside of sex. Most men see sex as their most important performance and a big chunk of their worth is tied to how much they please their woman. Tell him how good he makes you feel while you guys do the deed. If this is too uncomfortable, start outside of the bedroom. Randomly remind him of something he did that rocked your world or tell him something you can’t wait to do again with him. You’ll also reap the benefits in bed.
Intimacy is an essential part of relationships. All humans crave it, even men. It may seem contrary to your post-sex experience where he quickly turns the other side or goes to take a shower but this is because of years of social conditioning. He represses this side because he has been molded to see it as weakness. Guide him, make him feel comfortable with it. Don’t nag, tell him you love sex with him so much and would love a cuddle to prolong the closeness. Try to get your message across as sweetly as possible.
Foreplay might seem a bit odd for a man to want. Sometimes the aggressive, ‘let’s get down to business’ approach might be perfect but on other occasions it could be better to create a build-up. Don’t make him do all the work, take the lead. Work not just the penis as porn would suggest but find out his erogenous zones. Don’t be scared to ask but trying observing what he responds to. The insides of his thighs, his back, neck. You’d be surprised.
Fetishes are a very natural part of sex. Everyone has some desires that they repress in other to be ‘normal’. What kind of porn does he really like, does he ever talk about a particular sexual activity that you guys are yet to try? Try it. You might find it uncomfortable but this would go a long way in strengthening your relationship or keeping you in his fantasies.
Vocalize during sex. Let him hear you enjoy his work. This boosts his ego, makes him feel appreciated and gives him to confidence to please you in more thrilling ways. It’s not all about the sounds but the general body language too. Contort that face, smile, look at him with eyes rolled back, grab him tightly.
Play the coquette sometimes because sexual interest has to be sustained by some kind of distance. After a period of sexual intimacy, become difficult, make him chase. This will make him confused and keep you in his thoughts. He will also try harder to please and place more value on his access to you. Don’t stay away too long because absence can also make him forget.
This might seem like a lot to take on. You can start with one or two and as time goes, they’ll be more natural to you and you can try the others. You will not regret it.