Every single experience we acquired as habits, or certainties, were something new at one point, something that we have never done before but we thought “what the hell, let’s go for it”.
Sure, we may have been younger and more reckless when we did them but, if we haven’t, then we wouldn’t be still practicing said experiences to this day, and we would not know if we like them or not!
With age, we tend to become less reckless, less “living on the edge” and more “living on the boundaries that we have created for ourselves”. We may overlook new experiences and dismiss them instantly, because of said boundaries that we have created for ourselves or, perhaps, just because we are afraid of wasting time with something that we might not like.
However, what if i told you that trying new things, things that might scare you, that might intimidate you, that you might think wouldn’t be something you’d like, is actually beneficial to you?
Exactly, it might sound crazy but at the end of the day it is just like spicy food, if there is no spiciness in it, then what is the point? The moment we stop experimenting, learning, and having fun with it, is the moment life becomes stagnant, boring, and all the same.
Note that i don’t only mean big, new and exciting experiences, with little steps we go a long way, and it is always better (in my opinion) to take those steps, no matter how small, than to sit at a river bed waiting for waves to come.
Those waves are not coming unless we create them, we have to be the ones making our own waves of excitement in life, we have to be the ones that go ahead and take the initiative to try new things, no matter how scared or how apprehensive to them we might be. We never know until we try.
Maybe you have been wanting to try a certain dish or type of food but you don’t because you think that you might not like it or, perhaps, there is that one sexual position that you have been thinking about but you think “it might be too much effort for nothing”.
At the end of the day, you can never be sure if you are going to like something or not until you try it, who knows, you might actually end up loving it, acquiring it as a habit as well and, be head over heels for every time you get to experience it again.
All in all, the recipe to be able to keep things exciting in life or, to keep things fresh in your sex life, might just be to try that new experience that you have heard about or seen somewhere.
Don’t let your fears and your apprehensions stop you from adding some spice and excitement to your life, try them, and if you don’t like it, at least you won't go to the coffin thinking about it!