The girlfriend experience, or GFE is an experience offered by many escorts whereby a client pays for sex, but they also pay for companionship, intimacy and an emotional connection with their escort. For a period, the client wants a well put-together woman that is classy, sophisticated and one who can talk about anything while not brining any of their real-world problems or emotions to the arrangement. The GFE blurs the lines between a financial transaction and a romantic relationship. So how do you, as an escort, sell the fantasy without overstepping the boundary?
Well, the main component to the GFE is to establish an artificial connection and emotional intimacy between yourself and your client (though of course it should not feel artificial to the client). Many men find it hard to put their finger on what makes the GFE worth paying more for. However, many put the emphasis on the emotional aspect of the encounter and not just the sex. Some men even enjoy having an ongoing connection with the same escort as it feels less mechanical and more like dating. For these men, the GFE is about more than just their sexual release as it also gives them emotional pleasure as well as the physical.
So how do you do this? Well for the client, they often find pleasure from anticipating, as well as experiencing the encounter.
For example, one client describes his perfect GFE:
1. You await her arrival with slightly nervous anticipation.
2. When she arrives, you can feel almost immediately that you’ve made the right choice.
3. She seems to enjoy it as much as you do.
4. You lose track of time and never look at the clock.
5. The session is over far too soon.
6. You’re sorry to see her leave. (I know some guys joke that we pay them to leave, but I
don’t feel that way at all with a GFE escort.)
7. It didn’t feel at all like you paid for it.
8. You can’t wait to see her again.
Of course, much of the GFE is just playing into the fantasy. The client is often jut escaping their reality. The GFE centres on a romanticized version of what it means to have a girlfriend and not at all the reality of it. Instead, it allows clients to experience the benefits of a girlfriend for a few hours without the real-life expectorations and issues. After all, if the reality was so great then these clients wouldn’t come to escorts for the experience. A lot of the men that ask for the GFE are married and are looking for something that their wife cannot or does not give them.
The more the client immerses themselves in the experience the more they seem to enjoy it. Most clients are aware that it’s just a fantasy and most of them know they want to temporarily escape their reality. It may seem for a brief time that there is a real connection there, but at the end of the day they do not loose sight of their reality. It is rare that a client gets carried away but if they do you are well within your rights to remind them of the nature of the encounter. Most know it’s a transactional encounter but that doesn’t mean they can’t immerse themselves in the fantasy and enjoy themselves for a brief period.