Embodying a sensual dominatrix isn’t always about cracking out the whips, butt plugs and chains. On the contrary, it’s a power dynamic that emphasis mostly on emotional and psychosexual connection;
which can work wonders for your sex life –and if you’re an escort, be a strong asset to add to your skillset.
So what’s left of being a dominatrix –once the toys are taken out of the equation? Past mistresses and women in the scene have all agreed that the first order of this line of work is; to establish boundaries. If you’re escorting, a good rule of thumb would be to ask him or her the lines that they are willing to cross and the ones that they’re not –just so it’s fun for everybody! Create a safe word before engaging in anything. The art of being a good dominatrix is also all about creating a safe space for your sub to act out and enjoy, their wildest fantasies, so do all that you can before participating.
Any good dominatrix will also tell you that orgasms aren’t really necessary when participating in BDSM. You read that right, try your best to omit orgasms completely! Feel free to stimulate your partner, arouse them orally, talk dirty and engage in some heavy petting –but just when they’re close, pull right back. A lot of the fun of sex and BDSM is diminished when there is a mad struggle towards each other’s own orgasms, but take that out of the picture and you’re free to explore each other slowly, sensually and intimately without an end goal in mind.
Although we’ve established your role as the mistress, it wouldn’t hurt to switch up the roles every once in a while. Maybe your client would sometimes prefer that they become the dom halfway through –or maybe even you would like to be taken care of that night, it’s always great to keep your options open! Being a dominatrix relies heavily on the shift of power; so it would make sense that you would want to switch things up every once in a while to keep it fresh and exciting.