So, you have decided to become a Dominatrix. Welcome! You have probably been exploring the exciting world of BDSM, and now you're ready to dominate them like a pro. BDSM is devoted to exploring attachment, sexual pleasure, vulnerability, power play, and the sweet and sour mix of pleasure and suffering.
Learning how to be a dominatrix involves more than just inflicting pain and engaging in role-playing. In fact, for some doms, controlling and humiliating their subordinates can take precedence over administering discipline and suffering.
However, Communication And Consent Come First
Before introducing any new kink or sex object into your D/s relationship, you should always discuss it. Before engaging in a sort of play or sexual activity, learn as much as possible about it and discuss your firm and soft limits. Not all subs and dominant partners like the same kind of kink.
When using your new toy, ensure that you and your spouse understand how a submissive partner will signal to stop. If a safe word is not selected, always listen for "No!" or "Stop!" When uncertain, check-in and ask if it's okay to continue. We've compiled a list of toys that will help you dominate like the pro you are. They include:
Vibrators
Any vibrator can be used in BDSM and kinky play, particularly for forced orgasm play or if you want to distract him. For a submissive with a prostate, a prostate massager may be just what you need to extract every last drop from him. Or, use a magic wand or similar heavy-duty body massager to drive him insane on the outside. You can even add attachments that let those heavy vibrations permeate your sub and cause him to writhe from the inside out.
Cock Cages
If you or your spouse has a penis and consents to orgasm control or forced chastity, a cage is an excellent method for controlling him. You may like to use one with a lock covering his shaft and only detaches when required. Alternately, you may use a cage to slide tantalizing touches between the "bars" to keep him as anxious as possible. Find one that fits you or your spouse by evaluating the material and size. Chastity cages are intended to restrict movement and access, but they should never be worn for too long or too tightly.
Restraints
There are numerous possibilities for restraints, including handcuffs and hemp rope. Clip-and-hook-based restraint solutions work well if you're looking for ease and a straightforward solution. Want to bed-fasten your submissive? Under-bed restraints are convenient and straight to conceal later. Want their arms over their head so you can reach various body areas simultaneously? Over-the-door kits are an excellent choice. Want your stand-in to maintain a particular position during a scene? Consider using a neck-to-wrist restraint system. If you're looking for something simpler, use a restraint system instead of rope work.
Gags
You may envision a ball gag or a bit gag when you think of a gag, but these are not your only possibilities.
Spider gag allows you to insert a dildo or your penis down a submissive's throat. This is also a viable alternative if open lips and protruding tongue are desired for face-sitting or rimming. Face-fucking is taken to an entirely new level by gags with dildos that allow the submissive to penetrate you (or someone else). In either case, a gag controls speech and what occurs during play.
Gags are ideal for keeping a partner silent while you tease and delight them as you see proper. They facilitate power play and can be used for control and humiliation. They may also be helpful if your BDSM dungeon is not as soundproof as you would!
Candles
Wax play with candles only works if you or your partner enjoy and desire pain and sensation. Some people do it for the temporary discomfort, while others enjoy the sensation of having wax scraped off their skin. If you are new to wax play, you should seek out candles suited for it. Household candles are not advisable since they might burn excessively hot and cause serious injury.
Note: Not every individual who identifies as male has a penis. Some of the kinky sex toys described here are designed for people with penises, but not all of them are. Needing, selecting, or using one toy over another does not make you more or less slutty, subservient, or masculine.
The naughty adult toys you use depend on what excites you or your lover and the type of control you enjoy. Bondage, pain, and orgasmic control are a few alternatives. Before buying a new prop for a BDSM scene, you should consult with your partner. Go slowly at first until you and your partner get more comfortable. No matter what sex item you use or how you engage in kink, the objective is to feel mutual pleasure.