When it comes to sex life and the wonderfully magical performance in the bedroom, communication may often be overlooked and overshadowed by the desire to perform well instead.
While in some circumstances, not a single word might be needed, in others, it might be something that will not only greatly benefit the experience, but enhance the mood in ways you thought unimaginable.
To communicate while having sex, doesn’t always mean that you need to dirty talk your way through the act. Sure, dirty talk is a fun and kinky way to spice up the moment, however, some people might not be comfortable with it and that is totally fine.
Here, we will show you just a few of the benefits that communication can have while performing in the bedroom and, even before!
Pre-Act
Sometimes, communicating ahead of time is a beneficial way to test the terrain and to be able to move on to what truly feels better when it comes to the bedroom. Making a flirtatious joke or a comment about how you are going to please your partner that night, can give you the certainty that they would like that or not, providing that they would be honest and say if they want it or not. The same principle applies to if you are the one receiving said act.
Acknowledgment
More often in newer couples, finding what your partner likes can be a challenge, you have to be aware of the moaning, the movements, the breaths, in order to figure out if what you are doing is to their liking or not but, what if there was an easier way to figure that out? Well, good news, there is!
When you are performing an act on your partner or them on you, you should express if you are liking it or not or, even ask them if they are liking what is happening in that moment, in order to figure out if it is working out for the both of you or not.
Not only can this simple exchange of information beneficial to the relationship in the longterm (seeing that this kind of communication is important in any other aspect of a relationship) but, it is also quite important when it comes to speeding up to something better and more pleasurable.
Spicing Things Up
After all the necessary communication, to figure out what is working and what isn’t, comes the time to actually spice things up, if the mood calls for it of course. Making some compliments about your partner’s body or performance can boost their ego, making the performance better and more exciting as well. It is also a good idea to actually dirty talk from time to time, even if it is just to test out if you are into that sort of thing or not.
But hey, if dirty talking makes you feel slightly uncomfortable then move on from that because, after all, at least you tried it in order to know if you liked it or not and, besides, it is all about making each other feel good and comfortable, with whatever happens in the bedroom.