One of my favourite things about sex is the many variations it could come in. It is always fun to be curious and explore new things in the world of sex; who knows, you might find your new favourite sex addiction. You might have a little background knowledge of Shibari, even if you may not know the actual term.
The term ‘’Shibari’’ is a Japanese word that translates to ‘’tying’’. Shibari is like a kinky cousin to BDSM, but the better one. It is an artistic and aesthetic Japanese rope bondage, which involves the tying of persons with rope. The ropes are often tied in creative and complex patterns.
Now, Shibari is often associated with sexual pleasure and ecstasy when in historical times, it was associated with meditation, bonding, and trust-building between two partners.
BDSM and Shibari; Major Difference Between Both
It has been established already that Shibari and BDSM are related in some way. However, while BDSM involves using restrictions like whips, handcuffs, ropes, ties, etc., Shibari only consists of the use of ropes to tie your partner. Shibari establishes trust between the ‘’rigger’’ and ‘’receiver’’.
How Is Shibari Practiced?
Before you start, you must communicate and discuss extensively with your partner what boundaries and limits you can and can’t push. Make sure that the person you want to practice Shibari with is someone you trust, as this exercise requires a whole lot of trust. It is usually advised to have a safe word for when things get out of hand during the act. Ask questions like ‘’How will I know that you are having fun?’’ and ‘’how will I know when to change the process?’’.
Whatever safe word you both pick must be something simple and worth remembering; imagine you writhing in pain because you can’t remember the safe word, while your partner, on the other hand, thinks you are enjoying the whole thing. Once you and your partner have established the boundaries and limits, all you need is basic knowledge of Shibari.
The receiver(the person being tied) is usually naked, and if clothed at all, not too loose clothing is advised. Ensure the room used has enough lighting so that the rigger (the one who does the tying) sees properly. It is always better to use a space that makes both you and your partner comfortable. Cotton, hemp, and jute are preferred materials for the rope; jute is, however, the best as it possesses natural fibre materials.
It is optional for the receiver to be blindfolded, although blindfolds will make everything ten times better and more fun as it stimulates sensations in the receiver.
One major highlight of Shibari is the untying part-taking ample time to bask and relish at the moment does wonder to the receiver’s body.