Trying to talk dirty during sex may feel strange trying it for the first time as you try to come up with creative ways and phrases to say to your significant other. Relax, talking dirty is not an exact science, and handling it for the larger part depends on how comfortable you are versus your knowledge about it. There’s no general rule when it comes to dirty talking. The most important thing is discovering the type of language and vocabulary that you and your partner find sexy.
Imagine, you are anxious, palms sweating. With hundreds of not-so-sexy possibilities running through your mind and after what seems like an eternity of struggling your brain decides on a simple “lick me” and you practically scream “dick me!” Instead right into his face.
Uh-oh. Nothing worse than when dirty talking turns awkward. The right words whispered can make set your skin on fire, but all it takes is one cringeworthy word or phrase to completely kill the mood.
Your mind is one of your most superior sexual organ, and dirty talk can activate the erotical areas of the brain. The right words spoken at the right time can amplify your sex drive and be a huge turn-on for both you and your partner.
With that being said, if you’re shy or feel nervous, the idea of saying saucy things out loud might fill you with dread. Saying what you want from your boo and expressing how much you're enjoying yourself can bring enormous passion and excitement into your sex life.
Having the ability to dirty talk during sex is not a piece of cake, but with this guide and a little practice, you can become a pro in no time.
Ease into it
Not everyone is naturally sassy and can flawlessly express themselves, so go at your own pace, you can start with simply sexting your fantasies to your partner, if you are not yet too comfortable with that sort of face to face interaction. Remember you are not on a clock to know how to dirty talk.
Talk
Truth be told, we all get vulnerable when we get naked. Sexual egos are delicate, so we can find it really hard to talk about sex with the people we're actually having it with. We worry about saying the wrong thing and putting our partner off or hurt their feelings. But we also want to please our partner, and we want to be "good in bed." Talk to your partner, find out the things they like, that would help a lot.
Keep it simple
Talking dirty doesn’t have to be wildly complex, just ease into it, you can start by saying what is happening at that particular moment or what you want to happen. You can start sentences with phrases like “I wish” or “I want,” I want to you to kiss my neck” and “I wish to feel your cock inside me.” Once that feels comfortable, you can come up with more elaborate and wild phrases.
Sexy Flattery
Flattery can literally help you in every aspect of life. People love being complimented during sex (especially those whose love language is words of affirmation) Confirm when something feels good or that you’re enjoying what is going on. For instance, “Your fingers feels magical on my skin” or“I like it when you touch me there.”
Use the 5 senses
Do you like the way your partner smell? Let them know. Do you feel aroused by the sounds your partner makes? Whisper it into their ear. I want to see the way you’d look bent over that table” or “I love how you moan/grunt for me.”imagine hearing “I want to taste you on my tongue.” or “I want to memorize the way you smell.” Saying or hearing things like that can send both you and you partner into a frenzy passion.
Ask Questions
Asking questions helps a lot, not only does it tell you what your partner wants but also makes things exciting. Ask things like “How does that feel?”or “Do you like this?” or “Do you want some more?”
Don’t Overthink it
It doesn't have to be too creative, but it should make you and your partner feel good. "Good sex should naturally be liberating and explorative.” What you say to your partner should feel natural and in the moment.
Be Comfortable
What you're willing to try sexually in your relationship depends a lot on how comfortable you are with your significant other. “Talking with your partner first about your interests in dirty talk can go a long way to make you less anxious or feeling awkward when you're actually in the moment,
Dirty things to say during sex:
• I love the taste of your pussy/cock in my mouth
• I’m dripping
• Make me scream
• I want you inside me
• Im going to fuck you so hard
• I’m so hard/wet
• I’m not wearing any panties
• Grab my ass/ Bite me/ Choke me/Pull my hair/Spank me
• Harder/Deeper/Faster/Slower/Please baby
• I love how you make me cum hard
• Your tongue feels amazing
• I’d rip your clothes off when I see you
• I can’t wait to get down on you
• Touch yourself/ Are you touching yourself?
• Yes, just like that
• Say my name
• Do you like that?
In conclusion, talking dirty during sex is very beneficial in a relationship. Couples who talk dirty during sex discover they actually enjoy sex more, and others report having better orgasms. If that doesn't make you curious enough to try it out for yourself, I don't know what will.