From my observations, I’ve noticed that the word orgasm is seldom used by women to refer to what they get from sex. In a world where the end of sex if mostly defined as the male orgasm, let me reintroduce you to an acquaintance who really should be your best friend – your clitoris.
To get the most out of being an escort, you should understand your body. Without know all the parts, even the itty-bitty ones, you will not be able to get the most out of sexual interactions with a client and everyone knows that pleasure of one partner usually results in more pleasure for the other.
Where is the clitoris?
There’s this popular myth that the clitoris is hard to find but if you just look, you would see a little hill towards the top of your labia minora (the smaller version of the more obvious lips). It is an erectile tissue and swells when aroused. It is the only organ in both the human (male included) body that exists purely for pleasure. The part of the clitoris you see is actually the head and the body divides into two, hidden under your labia. The point called the g-spot is actually the clitoris bulging against the vaginal wall.
Why you need to prioritize your clit
The penis is actually the male version of the clitoris (without going into the deep anatomy). The body that parts for the urethral and vaginal openings is closed and elongated in men to form the penile shaft.
Stimulating the clitoris orally or using hands, sex toys and even grazing against the body during intercourse is extremely pleasurable if done right. It has even more nerve-endings than the glans of the penis and imagine if the penile head was as ignored as the clitoris.
80% of women can’t orgasm without clitoral stimulation. No matter how long it lasts, no matter how well the guy strokes or how big his penis is, a guy who actually knows how to handle a clitoris is the only one who can conquer female sexuality.
Ways to stimulate the clitoris
This could be in your private time or with a client. You might be feeling queasy about not knowing all this about yourself but you should realise that it was not until 1998 that people actually understood the anatomy of the clitoris. Our homes where sex education is a taboo didn’t help either.
Rubbing down the clit with your hands until it’s irritated is not going to make you cum. Your partner could use his tongue to focus on your clitoris but this is not the only way to get it excited. The strokes, repetition, speed and the pressure have to be mastered to give pleasure. You might like more pressure than the next girl and it’s only through exploration that you can discover your preferences. A good system is to take it easy and build up as you get turned on. During sex, it’s usually not wise for your partner to begin with clitoral stimulation.
Granted I did not go deep into the technique but perhaps next time? Enjoy yourself *winks.