When it comes to playing with power dynamics in the bedroom, it is always important that both individuals are in accordance with the limits of each other!
Sure, it is a lot of fun to be completely submissive to your partner and letting them use your body as they see fit, turning your body into an absolute pleasure machine while feeling like they have complete power, however, it is also important that you feel comfortable while doing so, therefore, this begs the question: how submissive should you really be?
The answer to this question is really up to the individual, seeing that everyone is different, therefore, everyone has a different set of rules and limits and, sometimes, some people don’t even have none, preferring to be completely submissive with no limits whatsoever and that is completely okay too!
However, if you are new to the power dynamic play or, if you are having trouble understanding how submissive you should really be, we are here to help you with some ways that you can figure that out for yourself!
Write Down The Pros And Cons
Before you become completely submissive to your partner, you should really, make sure that this is what you want to experience and, to know if you will be comfortable with it or not when you are in the centre of the action!
By writing down the pros and cons of being submissive, you get the guarantee of knowing exactly what you like and what you don’t like about it and, naturally, if there are a lot more cons than pros on that list then, perhaps, it might just not be for you!
Regardless, experimenting will always provide you with the certainty of whether you like it or not.
Set Some Ground Rules
If you had decided that this is what you want to try then it might be time to set some ground rules with your partner! Perhaps you know that your partner wants to try something that you might not be very interested in trying, however, seeing that you would be in a submissive position, you wonder if they would try to do it, this is where setting the rules is a great way to prevent that!
Making sure that your partner knows what they can’t do and that they respect the rules, can make it for a much more enjoyable experience, which will also make it so you can fully be submissive to your partner because, after all, you know that they will respect the rules you wrote down and that you will remain feeling comfortable.
Choose A Safe Word
Being submissive might end up being something you really love, however, if a time comes where you are not feeling comfortable anymore and you want your partner to stop, it might be a good idea to assign a safe word in order for the action to end!
This is very needed because it is important that you feel comfortable, with the experience, just as much as your partner will!
Overall, being submissive really depends on the person and how comfortable they are with that idea, however, there is no harm in trying, as long as you make sure all of your pros and cons are set in stone, as well as making sure your partner knows what not to do!